As we move into summer, I continue to hear great compliments about the Spring Conference. In every one of my collaborative group meetings, post-conference, it seems the team introduces a new concept or practice they learned from the excellent content presented in DFW. I want to extend my thanks to the co-chairs, planning committee and all the presenters. It so nice to be in person, actually sharing life, and helpful work-conversations with incredible professionals!
Earl Nightingale is a voice from the 1950s we may not have thought of in a while. He is often called the dean of personal development, a modern philosopher of motivation and human character. Earl achieved great personal and financial success before the age of 35 as the most listened-to man in America, in his day. Honestly, I wish he was on all our radios still.
Earl was known for this quote: “All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.”
I have no idea if Earl Nightingale ever got to witness much family law in practice but I trust he would agree, everyone at the table needs courage and character to delve into a family’s life and help shift the paradigm from harshness and vitriol, toward educated, intelligent and more gracious decisions. These are essential and helpful tools as parents and children are transitioning to a new normal in their everyday life - using this better way we call Collaborative.
I consistently say to the clients when introducing the Road Map, that if you work the plan, the plan will work. As we all have experienced, there can be a spouse that wants to jump to the evaluation step and settle in the first meeting. Many times, when the other spouse hears this, they start experiencing panic, fear, anger, heartache or a combination of toxic reactions. When we as a team remain resolute to follow the Road Map, we tend to maintain better client control. Also, it can help assure both parties we are being thorough and effective with their family’s future – which is, of course, the highest value element in every case.
I encourage you to continue planning your work, and working your plan, with hope and kindness. What you do, and the heart you do it with, truly matters.